Should I feel bad about ruining my son’s wedding?

My son used to be a good husband and dad, but now he cheats on his wife and doesn’t spend time with his kids. Mike ruined his relationship with Tommy’s mother, Jane, after my grandson was born with Down syndrome. After that, he left. I found out that he is getting married again.

I know that as mothers, we’re supposed to motivate and support our children. I agree wholeheartedly. And that’s why I believe that my actions were justified.

Here’s the backstory. My son, Mike, married when he was very young because his then-girlfriend, Jane, got pregnant. It was rushed, but I adored Jane from the first time I met her. She was the typical girl next door, and I loved that for Mike.

A few months later, sweet little Tommy — my first grandchild — was born! He was born with Down syndrome and had the most beautiful blue eyes ever. But Tommy being born with Down Syndrome changed everything for Jane and Mike. Mike started cheating on her, and irrespective of their child and share history, he ended up filing for divorce.

Mike left Tommy with only Jane to care for him. Of course, I was still around and would do anything and everything to help them both. But it wasn’t the same. A child needs to have both parents — provided that they are alive and breathing.

But Mike didn’t bother to try to see his baby or help out in any way. I couldn’t believe that my son could be so heartless.

I begged him to come back or to at least help Jane out. But he shut the door in my face every single time.

And then, the plot thickens.

Last month, my nephew, Liam, came over to pick up a cake for his mother — I am the designated family baker. And he told me that Mike was getting married again.

I was astonished.

Granted, I barely knew anything about Mike these days. From his new job to who he was seeing, I knew nothing. All I knew now was that Mike had found some poor girl to marry him. And that I wasn’t invited. I asked Liam for the address, and he gave it without hesitation.

All I could think about was Jane and Tommy. When did Mike turn into such a different man?

Fast forward to the wedding.

I remember hearing Mike’s voice when I was walking up the church as he said his vows. I strolled in, holding Tommy on my hip, his sticky hands in my hair. The shock on Mike’s face will forever be priceless to me.