Woman refuses to make signature Christmas dish after mother-in-law tossed it last year and never apologized
through the effort of trying to make OP’s signature dish, did a poor job of it, then proceeded to rampage with revenge and destroy OP’s leftovers.” Referencing that there hasn’t been an apology from the MIL, the user continues in the comment: “I’d be insisting that husband joins OP in whatever other Christmas celebrations she’d prefer to attend from now on. They can send a cheap frozen lasagna to MIL’s as their RSVP ‘no.’”
Cancelled from family Christmas
Deciding to give Christmas with the in-laws one more chance, the woman shared a recent update on what’s happening now.
In late November, the OP writes that her mother-in-law reached out and provided her with a list of what she wants her son and his wife to bring for the annual holiday feast.
On her list was lasagna.
“I politely said I wasn’t going to make lasagna due to last year’s incident and I’d be happy to make anything else,” she pens.
But things quickly spiralled out of control. “My MIL wasn’t as polite and called me vindictive for refusing to make the lasagna over a small mistake,” the OP writes. “I just refused again, and it made my MIL angrier so she told me that unless I show up with lasagna in hand, she wouldn’t let me be at the Christmas celebration.”
With the threat of being cancelled from the family Christmas dinner, the author explains that Michael is playing mediator, trying to persuade her into making peace by baking the lasagna.
“My husband says it’s easier to just make the lasagna to keep the peace, and I shouldn’t hold my MIL’s mistake that she made out of anger against her.” She then says that Michael’s mom has rallied her troops, who are saying “I should also make it even if it’s just half of what I would usually make.”
Begging for advice, the desperate woman asks the Reddit population what she can do.
“OP made the lasagna, so everything is fine, all is forgiven, and MIL can feel better without actually doing any emotional labor,” writes one online user, who adds: “OP should host her own holiday party on Christmas Eve, invite friends and relatives she likes and can trust…and enjoy a drama-free holiday this year.”
Another netizen offers: “Stay home for Christmas this year, it’s time to wean MIL off the holiday throne.”
Meanwhile, other cybernauts suggest her husband earn the peace he’s wanting by making the lasagna himself.
“Sounds like he just volunteered to make the lasagna!” writes one. A second shares, “Why is MiL telling her daughter-in-law to cook something for Christmas instead of her own son! Can he not cook?”
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